As a kid, I was introduced to the Myers Brigs Type Indicator, also known as MBTI. My Dad was interested in this and had a book called Please Understand Me that I read as a teenager, my sister even did a book report on it!
Anyway, I found out my personality type is INTP, the complete opposite to my Mum who is an ENFJ – and this explained a lot about relationship and the issues that caused us to clash. I won’t go into the details about what this means, if you’re interested, check out the link above.
For a matter of interest, the other day I did a Google search on MBTI for parenting styles. I know a lot has been written about MBTI in other areas of life, so I figured something would be written about parenting.
I came across this article, “Exploding the Myth of the Ideal Parent“. Unfortunately the link to the authors website is not live (or it wasn’t when I checked it out). She makes some excellent points about parenting.
On another website, I found this:
Your type is: intp “The ‘Love of Learning’ Mother”
“I keep the encyclopedia in the kitchen so we can look up things together while we eat.”
* Intellectually curious and patient, the INTP mother relishes those times with a child when they are learning something interesting together. Whether they’re at the zoo or computer terminal, she sparks to answering his or her ‘whys’ with in-depth responses or new knowledge.
* The INTP mother is also objective and introspective. She listens to and discusses children’s ideas and questions as she would those of a peer, fostering self-esteem and confidence. Open and non-directive, she allows children the freedom to do for themselves and quietly encourages them to believe they can do it.
* Independence, autonomy, intellectual development, and self-reliance are probably the INTP’s highest priorities for her children. An avid reader, she naturally imparts an appreciation and love of reading as well.
* Drawn to all types of learning, the INTP may also value her mothering experience for all the new insights about life it provides her.
I found this here. There are also descriptions of other parenting types there too.
This describes me and my parenting style really well, and it gave me the feeling that I was on the right track. Except, now I keep the laptop in the kitchen so we can Google the answers to questions!
According to the same site I got that description, the traditionally “ideal” mother is the ENFJ.
Regardless, I found this description has given me confidence in my own parenting, even though I don’t do most of the things the parenting magazine’s say Mums should do.
The description above may not fit your parenting style, so don’t feel discouraged. Different personality types have different styles. If you are interested in finding out more about your personality type or parenting style, check out some of the links I’ve included as well do a Google search yourself to find tools to find your personality type.