Archive | June 2012

Rediscovering a bath

Rediscovering bath time…

I don’t have a lot of time for me. There is a lot going on and, like most mothers, I don’t always put my own needs first.

A few weeks ago, I had the house to myself. For some strange reason, the bath beckoned.

For Christmas, I was given some really nice bath & body wash. I dug it out of the cupboard and squirted it in the bath while the hot water ran.

Pinching the CD player out of my kids bedroom, I put on a CD of MY music, something relaxing, and picked up the trashy novel I had borrowed from the library.

I spent a relaxing hour in the bath with my music and a romance novel… Bliss.

Since then, I have had a bath a few times, not all have been as long as that first one, but they are still relaxing. I haven’t bothered with candles or anything like that, mostly because the muted lighting makes it harder to read. For me, it’s the complete bliss of uninterrupted reading time, and reading something I don’t have to read.

A bath isn’t for everyone, and we don’t always have time or space for this much time for ourselves. The important thing is that we make time – no matter how busy we are… Having a bath is an occasional pampering time for me. What’s yours?

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Do you have a community?

Where is your community?

Are you part of a community? I’ve been talking to a number of Mums lately that have no real community to support them.

A community is more than just a group of people you meet with regularly. They are a group of people who help in your journey as a Mum.

For me, my community came from my church. We go almost every week, and it’s just what we do on a Sunday morning. Even on my darkest days when I didn’t feel like leaving the house, we would still head out to church on a Sunday morning. Often I would walk in the door and burst in to tears. Someone would take toddler Mr N off to play and someone else would cuddle baby Mr Z, and someone else would sit beside me and hold the tissues.

As well as this weekly support, there were times when people would drop off meals or even come and give a hand with child care or even housework!

As the boys grew older, we’ve changed churches a few times, and every time there has been amazing support from the community. This includes meals when we’ve all been really sick, help with transport when my car died, babysitting when I need some time out, and, especially, friends to meet with for coffee.

One special thing about the church communities I have been part of is the older women who are there. Their children are older than mine and they often know what I’m going through. They can offer sage advice, or not as required, and reassure me that things will change as the kids grow up.

There are also other kids there for my kids to play with, so we all have people to hang out with. There are also adults who are adopted aunty’s and uncle’s for my kids, sharing a special relationship with them and giving them someone special they can talk to.

If church isn’t your “thing”, find another community that can provide you with support. You don’t have to do it all alone, and having a community is a great way to get support, both for you and for your family.

Do you have a community?

A new start…

A fresh start

I posted before about how I want to turn this blog in to a book, and about how this theme just hasn’t left me alone… well, I’m back to blogging here.

Quite a few things have happened lately that have led me to try and be Super Mum. I am working, taking my kids to various, regular appointments during the week, studying, writing, and all the other things that comes with being the Mum of two boys.

Guilt is¬†overwhelming at times – after all, my son turned 10 in January and we still haven’t had his birthday party!

So, to help me get through this, I thought that blogging about Down with Supermum would be a good way to remind me that I don’t have to be Super Mum, I just have to be me. It’s OK to ask for help, it’s OK to not be able to do everything myself.

I am also hoping that I’m not alone in this journey and that you will get involved with your comments.

With everything that is going on, I don’t know how often I will post, but I will post as often as I can…

Thank you for coming on this journey with me.

Oh, and I am also in the process of redesigning this blog with a custom template – so watch this space…

When an idea doesn’t leave you alone…

Writing a book…

Have you ever had one of those ideas that doesn’t leave you alone? I do, and I’ve had quite a few…. and the title of this blog has been one of them.

Recently, someone I know on a forum did a Google search on me and stumbled on this blog. She read it from start to finish and loved it! She couldn’t understand why I stopped…

To be honest, I have had ideas running around in my head that would fit really well with this topic, I have haven’t blogged about them.

After my forum friend contacted me, I started thinking seriously about it. One of the reasons I stopped is because I’d much rather write a book (or 2 or 3 or…). So, she’s spurred me on to write a book.

I have a number of different topics in my head, including some of the topics I’ve already blogged about here and others that I haven’t blogged about yet.

As it will be aimed at busy Mums, I want each section/topic to be around the length of a blog post – around 500 words. I also want it to be easy for Mum’s to pick up and put down as they get interrupted by kids.

I would like to hear from you – are there areas you struggle with as a Mum that might be helpful…? I want this to be useful as well as an enjoyable read. Please, add a comment or post on my Facebook page and let me know.