Archive | July 2013

One Cupboard at a Time

Attempting to organise my cupboards

Attempting to organise my cupboards

I’m attempting to get my cupboards organised… many of them are a mess and things are everywhere. To be honest, most cupboards don’t stay organised for long…

I’ve started tackling one cupboard at a time to get them organised how I want them. Different cupboards need different things – some have been filled with Tupperware containers, others with plastic containers from the cheap shop to store medications and candles. Some cupboards just need everything pulled out and put back in some sort of order.

To be honest, there is no system to the cupboards to that are getting organised. I choose the cupboard that is bugging me at the time. My goal is to get these in an order that is sustainable so the cupboards can stay tidy.

I have read many blog posts and books about how to get things organised and I’ve tried their different methods, but none seems to work for very long. By tackling the cupboard that is bugging me the most, it gives me the motivation to get the cupboard organised, and it’s a problem that needs to be solved.

If you are organising your cupboards, you will need to find the way that works best for you. Blog posts can provide inspiration, as well as Pinterest images, books, other people’s cupboards, and more, however when it comes down to it, you need to do what works for you.

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Snacks for visitors

Providing snacks for visitors

Providing snacks for visitors

If you have set visiting hours, you may feel pressure to provide snacks for these visitors. Never fear, this is all about saying “Down with Supermum,” so you didn’t think I’d put that on you… did you?

The easiest way to provide tea and coffee is to have everything available so your guests can make their own cups. Have the kettle, tea bags, coffee, sugar bowl and mugs readily available and the milk in the fridge. In the lead up to your due date, toss a few extra packets of biscuits into your supermarket trolley, so you will have a supply ready to open when needed.

If you have people offering to bring food, you can also ask for some cakes, biscuits and other snacks that can be on hand for visitors. Some of these can even be frozen to be defrosted on the morning they are needed or the night before, giving them a longer shelf life.

If you enjoy making tea and coffee for visitors while they are holding your baby, wonderful. I’m sure your visitors will appreciate it. However, you may find that your visitors will be happy to make you a cup of tea while they make one for themselves. They may even bring a plate of something to share with you and your visitors.

Set visiting hours

Set visiting hours

Set visiting hours

Everyone wants to visit a newborn, and this can be overwhelming even for the most social new parents. There is a reason why hospitals have strict visiting hours for the maternity ward.

In spite of how some parents brag, most newborns don’t sleep for more than 2-3 hours at a time, waking regularly for feeds during the night. This means broken sleep. Prevailing advice for most new mothers is to sleep when the baby sleeps. This never worked for me, but it was helpful to rest, especially when baby number 2 arrived.

Something I’ve heard a bit lately is parents sending a note with the birth announcement with visiting hours at home, inviting people to drop in during that time. There is a line that says that if people want to come at other times, they can call first, just in case Mum and baby are sleeping.

Depending on how well you and your baby are settling in at home, you can always revise your visiting hours. The beauty of social media is that is easy to let people know. You may find that everything is going well and you are happy to have visitors popping in and out all day. You may also find that you are exhausted with a fussy baby and need some time with just you, your partner and your baby. This is something you won’t know until your baby is born.

Setting visiting hours can also help you plan your day. If you are struggling to get dressed in the morning, you will know when visitors are coming so you can be prepared. It will also help you if you need a rest as you can tell your guests that visiting hours are now over and it’s time for them to go home.

The early days can be a huge adjustment for anyone, so don’t try and be Supermum and put up with visitors when all you want to do is rest and enjoy being a new Mum.

Supermum from the start…

Don't be a Supermum from the start

Don’t be a Supermum from the start

Newborn babies are gorgeous. Even if you’re not that interested in babies, there is something special about a newborn. I don’t know if it’s how cuddly they are or that special newborn smell, or even just the promise if what this tiny human holds, but everyone wants to visit for cuddles.

For most Mum’s, this is where the Supermum label begins, and for many, the label began much earlier while Mum was pregnant.

I don’t know if it’s a cultural thing, or if it’s an expectation we put on ourselves, but there are so many demands on mothers’ to do everything – even on minimal sleep – that sets us up for a hard time. Whatever it is, we put a lot of pressure on ourselves to be a Supermum.

We have a new addition to our family. I have a gorgeous new nephew. As I write this, he is a week old. In his honour, I thought I’d do a few posts about to ditch the Supermum cape right from the start. As with anything I post here, take the things that work for your family and leave the rest. Many of these tips are things that I wish I had done when my kids were newborn…

If you have a newborn in your family, I hope some of these tips will help you.

I don’t do working bee’s

I don't do working bee's

I don’t do working bee’s

As a parent, there are so many activities to be involved with. Once they get to school, that list increased dramatically with activities the school asks parents to be involved in. From parent’s committee’s to reading with the class, to helping on the cake stall to just about anything else you can think of.

When I was working for myself, I was able to volunteer to help out at the school. The only thing during the school day that I really said no to was the Father’s Day stall, otherwise I was there nearly every second day (or so it seemed) helping out with something. A big advantage I found was that by the time my second started school, the place wasn’t scary for him as he was there a lot.

Now that I am working, giving my time is a lot harder, so I help out in other ways, although I need to draw the line somewhere. For me, it’s Working Bee’s.

I’m sure you’re familiar with the idea – on a Saturday morning, parents, students and teachers gather in the school yard to clean the place up. Often they tackle large jobs that need doing like mulching the garden beds or cleaning our rubbish from the bike sheds to make room for bikes. It’s a great way to maintain the school and get the community involved.

The biggest reason I say no is that on a Saturday morning, we have Auskick, music lessons, and a number of other activities for the kids, and there is only one of me. If I go to the Working Bee, then the kids will miss out on their activities. It’s all about setting boundaries so I’m not running myself ragged, but we still get to do everything we need to.

Your boundaries may be different to mine. You may love working bee’s, or have a partner who can attend while you run your kids around on a Saturday morning event. In order to stop being Super Mum, stop trying to do everything and be everywhere. And if you can’t attend a working bee, you may be able to help with the upkeep of the school in another way, such as donating some money toward a gardener or even doing jobs at other times.