If you have set visiting hours, you may feel pressure to provide snacks for these visitors. Never fear, this is all about saying “Down with Supermum,” so you didn’t think I’d put that on you… did you?
The easiest way to provide tea and coffee is to have everything available so your guests can make their own cups. Have the kettle, tea bags, coffee, sugar bowl and mugs readily available and the milk in the fridge. In the lead up to your due date, toss a few extra packets of biscuits into your supermarket trolley, so you will have a supply ready to open when needed.
If you have people offering to bring food, you can also ask for some cakes, biscuits and other snacks that can be on hand for visitors. Some of these can even be frozen to be defrosted on the morning they are needed or the night before, giving them a longer shelf life.
If you enjoy making tea and coffee for visitors while they are holding your baby, wonderful. I’m sure your visitors will appreciate it. However, you may find that your visitors will be happy to make you a cup of tea while they make one for themselves. They may even bring a plate of something to share with you and your visitors.
Everyone wants to visit a newborn, and this can be overwhelming even for the most social new parents. There is a reason why hospitals have strict visiting hours for the maternity ward.
In spite of how some parents brag, most newborns don’t sleep for more than 2-3 hours at a time, waking regularly for feeds during the night. This means broken sleep. Prevailing advice for most new mothers is to sleep when the baby sleeps. This never worked for me, but it was helpful to rest, especially when baby number 2 arrived.
Something I’ve heard a bit lately is parents sending a note with the birth announcement with visiting hours at home, inviting people to drop in during that time. There is a line that says that if people want to come at other times, they can call first, just in case Mum and baby are sleeping.
Depending on how well you and your baby are settling in at home, you can always revise your visiting hours. The beauty of social media is that is easy to let people know. You may find that everything is going well and you are happy to have visitors popping in and out all day. You may also find that you are exhausted with a fussy baby and need some time with just you, your partner and your baby. This is something you won’t know until your baby is born.
Setting visiting hours can also help you plan your day. If you are struggling to get dressed in the morning, you will know when visitors are coming so you can be prepared. It will also help you if you need a rest as you can tell your guests that visiting hours are now over and it’s time for them to go home.
The early days can be a huge adjustment for anyone, so don’t try and be Supermum and put up with visitors when all you want to do is rest and enjoy being a new Mum.
Newborn babies are gorgeous. Even if you’re not that interested in babies, there is something special about a newborn. I don’t know if it’s how cuddly they are or that special newborn smell, or even just the promise if what this tiny human holds, but everyone wants to visit for cuddles.
For most Mum’s, this is where the Supermum label begins, and for many, the label began much earlier while Mum was pregnant.
I don’t know if it’s a cultural thing, or if it’s an expectation we put on ourselves, but there are so many demands on mothers’ to do everything – even on minimal sleep – that sets us up for a hard time. Whatever it is, we put a lot of pressure on ourselves to be a Supermum.
We have a new addition to our family. I have a gorgeous new nephew. As I write this, he is a week old. In his honour, I thought I’d do a few posts about to ditch the Supermum cape right from the start. As with anything I post here, take the things that work for your family and leave the rest. Many of these tips are things that I wish I had done when my kids were newborn…
If you have a newborn in your family, I hope some of these tips will help you.